On The Damsel in Distress
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he’s cute; she’s helpless; she’s vulnerable – most people I know don’t like, and can’t put up with, the Damsel in Distress act for too long.
Don’t get me wrong, sometimes it’s not an act, sometimes it really is warranted, but other times, and most often, it’s a habit. The problem is that the “damsel” feels that everyone is doing her bidding and that they’re happy doing so, but what she doesn’t realise is that most people get fed up quite quickly with constantly doing stuff for her; especially so many meaningless tasks that she would’ve been able to do on her own had she only stopped for a second to think about it and try!
For many, this distress act becomes a habit stemming out of laziness. We were taught as kids to ask when we don’t understand. The common Arab saying ‘he who asks doesn’t get lost’ is so prevalent in our culture that people abuse the concept: they ask you for the most menial of tasks like setting up a super user-friendly device, or making a call for them, or asking someone something for them, or even just ordering for them at a restaurant. It gets old pretty quickly!
This distress act becomes a habit stemming out of laziness
Of course, ask when you really do need help, but not when you’re just too lazy to put in the effort of finding the information yourself or doing the deed yourself. That’s how you distinguish whether you really need the help or being a damsel: are you just being lazy? Even children eventually stop asking when they learn how they can find the information themselves or do things on their own and they become independent.
When you continue to ask, it stops being cute and starts being plain frustrating. You’re just taking the burden of doing things yourself and offloading them on others, and others see through it. Enough is enough!
Looooollllllll it’s so true especially for women, I can’t be bothered with electronics and so a full on damsel in distress but in everything else I do or act that I can shoulder it like a man
We’re all a little “damsel” at times 😉
I read it 100 percent yes there are people like that just like to ask
Yes absolutely; and the problem is that they never stop or realize that they’re asking needlessly most of the time ♀️.
Thanks for your blog, nice to read. Do not stop.
Hey 🙂 Thanks for reading and thank you for your kind words.
Thank you 🙂 hope you continue to enjoy it!